My goal in this post is to share some principles and tactics that can make handling stress easier.
When dealing with stressful situations, I like to keep a few things in mind.
First, focus only on the task at hand—that is, be in the moment. Easy to say, not so easy to do.
Next, remember why you are taking on this stressful issue or event. Your reason WHY gives you context. I know that, for myself, I need something on the other side of WHY am I putting myself though this. Stressful events can include exams, competitions, parties, confrontations, and many other situations.
Also, in advance of the event or stressful decision, decide WHAT your boundaries are. Sometimes people say: decide what you will tolerate and what you won’t tolerate. How are you going to treat people and how do you want them to treat you? This is always about knowing what behaviors are or are not an issue for you.
Finally, work to bring an open mind to the situation. Give the people in your life the benefit of the doubt. Most of us are doing the best we can, with the tools we have, in circumstances we don’t always understand. That doesn’t mean we have to tolerate bad situations, just that we want to make decisions that we can live with in the future.